Grief Counselling, What to Expect
November 4, 2009
Losing someone we love is without doubt, one of the most painful and challenging experiences we can go through as human beings. We often need help in dealing with the array of powerful emotions that grief elicits, and that’s where grief counselling can be a very helpful tool in enabling a successful healing process.
Grief counsellors understand that the experience of grieving is not only about feeling sad. There are many other emotions that come into play and are equally, if not more powerful and difficult to handle. The most common emotional responses to grief are:
* Acceptance and Hope
Grief Counsellors Are Experts on the Grieving Process
To get to the final stage of grief and to start experiencing feelings of acceptance and hope, we need to fully process all the other feelings first. This can be really difficult to achieve on our own and we may find we “get stuck” in one emotional state such as anger or depression.
This is where grief counselling can really help us. Grief counsellors have experience with dealing with grief on a daily basis and will fully understand and empathise with what you are going through.
Explore Your Emotions
Your grief counsellor will help you explore your emotions and feel the full force of them in a safe, open and non-judgemental environment. He or she will guide you through all of the feeling states, otherwise known as the stages of grief, and help you acknowledge and accept each feeling as it arises. It’s only by going through this process that we can finally overcome the pain of grief and start moving on with our lives.
This process can take anywhere from a few months to a few years depending on the person. There is no set time span for grieving, it simply takes as long as it takes.
Understand the Impact of Previous Experiences of Loss
The experience of grief can also throw up previous issues of loss and bereavement that were not fully processed at the time and this is where grief counselling can be of the most help. If we have unresolved issues around grief lurking in our psyche, when we lose a loved one, we often get a double whammy.
Not only do we have the pain of our current loss to deal with, but the pain from the previous experience will also bubble up and fight for attention. When this happens the emotions associated with grief can become overwhelming.
Receiving unconditional support and guidance from a skillful professional who offers grief counselling, will enable you to manage and accept these overwhelming feelings and help you move on from your loss.